Girl having escort job 'tricked' a teacher into having a relationship with her
A teacher from London claims he was duped into a two-year relationship with a woman who was escorting at the same time. The man - who only wants to be referred to as Tom - met Julie, which is not her real name, on an online dating website. Tom, who lives in London, UK and is in his late 30s, fell in love with Julie almost immediately. Too bad for him, because the woman was having escort jobs and other sex jobs since she turned 18.
He was so hooked on her that just three months later, the pair bought a house together. However, Tom now has reason to believe that Julie was working as an outcall escort while they were together. He also feels like he was the victim of narcissistic abuse. 'I believe she suffers with narcissistic personality disorder', he said.
How did Tom meet the escort girl?
I got divorced and I was in a vulnerable position,” Tom said. But I was keen to get on with my life so I jumped on there. A woman winked at me online and we got chatting and went on a date. The moment I met her it was so intense. She was all over me, and I fell in love almost immediately. She was in her early thirties, very attractive, on paper it was great.
It was brilliant. It was very sexual, she had a bag of toys and she wanted to make me happy. I have asked her many times about her job and she told me that she works as a beauty cosmetician, but she forgot to mention her work as an escort.
Everything was about the future, she was saying we are going to be my Mrs, I can’t wait to use your surname. It was a fairy tale almost.
In the back of my mind it was too good to be true, but I never suspected anything. Possibly because of that distance, she was doing what I am now led to believe she was doing at the time.” They chose a location about halfway between their homes in London and Scotland, and put down £5,000 each on a deposit for a four-bedroom cottage. One day, when Tom came home. everything was in place, Julie organized the house without him, like she was living alone.
Trouble in paradise or drama?
Around two months after they moved in, Tom had his son over to stay for the weekend. Julie was talking about improvements they could make to the house when she suddenly “lost it”. Tom explained: “She made it about money, that I earned twice as much as her, and wanted me to pay more towards the mortgage. I said ‘what do you want to be, a kept woman’, and I’ve never seen a switch change so much in a person.”
She yelled and turned to Tom's son, but as Tom went to push Julie away and caught her on the throat. Julie called the police but didn’t press any charges, and the two made up and carried on.
This woman was everything to me, to a point. And we got past it and back to the idealisation phase. The next week we did a tour of London, just me and her, but it didn't solve anything. Days later, Julie exploded again and stormed off to a friend’s house down the road. She accused Tom of beating her, and called the police. Tom was arrested on suspicion of assault and spent 12 hours in a cell, but no charges were brought due to a lack of evidence. The relationship was coming to an end, and Julie put their house up for sale.
“She was demanding £10,000 from me to buy her out, although she only put half of that into the deposit. I left the house, and moved back in with my folks.' Looking back, this high class escort really made a fool of me..
Julie was having a double life in reality, offering Tom a 'girlfiend experience'
Something triggered me and it wasn’t sitting right, the calls, being on the phone all the time, the busyness, where her money had come from," Tom said. "It all felt a bit strange. So then I started to look on different escort agency websites. “I went on and I found her on there. Julie's profile included promises of a ‘girlfriend experience’. That’s the thing that gets me, she was practicing that spectacular girlfriend experience with me, and that’s what she’s then selling to others...
So I met an escort girl. And I was fooled...